(27 JAN 2020 UPDATE: I have struggled with explaining this more than any other concept I’ve ever dreamt up. I will likely write more about this in the future, because there’s so much to say. This has a small impact on every action a person takes, building up over time to really change someone’s life for worse or better.)

Don’t intentionally allow something to go wrong. It’s subtle, but many many people allow themselves to fail in situations, leaving things to chance, instead of guaranteeing success. Even if taking simple steps to guarantee that success is not very difficult to do.

People make things harder for themselves, on purpose. People often don’t want to take the action they know will succeed. They also don’t take the action that is guaranteed to fail, either. Most people seem to be comfortable with some sort of 70-90% confidence rate. Where there is still a little chance of failure, but not much.

Random examples:
– Not setting an alarm, because the person usually wakes up naturally without one. (Usually is the key word.)
– Not writing something down, because the person usually remembers things naturally.
– Refusing to use a calculator.
– Refusing to take medication that is known to be safe and common, for the specific reason that the person wants to try and solve this particular problem without medication (for example, a headache, snoring problems, or trouble falling asleep).
– Eating something that is “probably” still good, if there is a danger present that if spoiled, the food could cause harm.
– A short break from a difficult mental task (at work or school, for example) would refresh the mind, improve efficiency, morale, and even help get the project done in less time overall after the break, but the person would rather just stay frustrated and keep soldiering on through the task without a break.
– Not using birth control because you “probably” won’t get pregnant.

“Usually” and “probably” are the key words in most of these phrases. The person is comfortable with that 10-20% chance of failure.

I’m saying don’t do that. Leave no room for failure. Make it as close to 100% in everything you do in life, as much as reasonably feasible.

(I wrote more about this topic here: Don’t leave room for failure when lying.)
You may be able to see in your own life that you do things like this. Again, it’s very subtle. The common thread throughout the random examples is:

– Experiencing an issue
– Easy solution is available
– Would rather leave the issue to hope and chance, rather than take the solution
– Chance for failure; lack of guarantee for success

The alternative:

– Experiencing an issue
– Easy solution is available
– Take the solution
– Guaranteed success

Some people are uncomfortable with doing that, and would rather remain in the state of struggle.

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